The trouble with being smart…

Some of us thinkers were branded as smart when we were young. This is a devastating label for many of us. Here’s why…

I’m going to tell you a story to demonstrate. I was a second grade teacher for many years. I was lucky to have an amazing teaching partner who wanted to collaborate with me to find ways to transfer the ownership of our students’ learning away from us and onto them.

We created a rather brilliant approach to spelling that was really more about students learning how to use data to set and accomplish realistic goals than it was about learning spelling patterns. This was when I got a real sense of the damage done to those kids we laud praise upon for being smart.

The system worked like this:

We’d start each week with a pre-test of spelling words. All the words on the test contained a particular spelling pattern or 2-3 related patterns. We’d then correct the test together in class and the students would then use that information to create their own spelling list to study for the week. Any words missed on the pretest had to go on the student’s list, but beyond that they were free to pick from a curated list of words with the focus spelling pattern(s).

The words were presented in three columns, and I explained that the words in the first column were the simplest words and the easiest to master. As you moved across the columns, the words became more complex, likely becoming more difficult to remember. There was no additional guidance and the students had the freedom to pick whichever words they wanted (beyond those they’d missed on the pretest) to create their unique list.

They had several activities they could use to practice their words and at the end of the week, the students would pair up and test each other on their customized lists. We’d then graph the results of that test and analyze the data.

If you missed one or two words, you’d probably created a “just right” list for your level, with enough challenge to learn something but not so much that it was overwhelming and more than you could master. If you missed three or more words, you’d probably chosen words that were too difficult for you and next time you might consider choosing simpler words. If you consistently missed zero words then your list was probably too easy, and next time, you may want to challenge yourself with more difficult words.

(The graphs were also great to show trends over time, and we could use this data to adjust the student’s approach accordingly. Truly, this system was brilliant. I credit my teaching partner who was amazing to work with though she eventually wanted to move away from this because she felt it took too much focus away from spelling. I was more like, “fuck the spelling! This is real learning.”)

Now of course, there were always two to three smart kids in class that consistently chose the most difficult words and still aced the test every time. How to differentiate for these kids and make it more challenging? Well, they were encouraged to pull out the dictionary and find even more complex words that still contained the spelling pattern.

The first week these smart kids got to strut over to the bookshelf and pull out the dictionary, they were always so excited! They really had a great time finding longer, more challenging words and I loved seeing them so engaged rather than bored. Often, on this first go around, they would choose words that were too difficult and would be devastated when they missed several on their test. The following week, they’d use the guidance the whole class had received and look for words that were a bit simpler. If they missed one or two of these, they’d usually be done with the dictionary.

These smart kids would go back to the words they knew they could ace every time (usually because they already knew the words.) The dictionary would remain on the bookshelf during spelling because it challenged their very identities and made them feel less smart. These kids had fixed mindsets and when learning was too difficult, they gave up because it meant they were no longer elevated above effort due to their intelligence.  

What an eye-opener! And I couldn’t help but be reminded of all the activities I avoided as a child—and as an adult if I wasn’t sure I’d be good at it right out of the gate. How I spent years not allowing myself to be a beginner at anything, or if it was at all challenging, I’d abandon it quickly. Being labeled smart makes you risk-averse and gives you a fixed mindset.

Here’s a simple explanation of fixed mindset vs. growth mindset:

People with a fixed mindset avoid challenges, because it makes them feel like they’re not talented or smart. They lose interest when the work gets hard, and they give up easily.

Those with growth mindset seek and thrive on challenge. They want to stretch themselves, because they know that they will grow and learn. “This is hard. This is fun.”

https://medium.com/leadership-motivation-and-impact/fixed-v-growth-mindset-902e7d0081b3

So which are you? The risk-averse smart person or the person invigorated by challenge? Can you see how most classrooms create and reinforce this damaging identity?

So you want to be smart…

Let’s talk about the word, smart. What do you feel when you say or hear this word? I dislike this vague but cruel word very much; let me explain.

Yesterday, my daughter (who like me is a lover of precise language) said to me, “I think I’ve figured out the difference between the word clever and the word smart. I think clever refers more to problem-solving and smart…”

I cut her off. I know, I really need to stop that, but I have lots to say about this little awful word, and I jumped in and said, “I think the word smart is used to … elevate people.”

And she said, “I think it’s meant to put other people down.”

“We’re saying the same thing.”

“Oooh, you’re right!”

Forever, we’ve used the word smart to refer to people who have academic intelligence—the intelligence our society values above all others. If you get good grades in school, you’re smart. (Never mind that grades are inherently biased and often reflect the teacher’s preferences for certain students or have been skewed with “extra-credit”. Ugh, a post for another day.)

If you’re good at information recall, even if it’s useless information, you’re smart. If math formulas come easy to you, you’re smart. Oh, and of course, the more “education” you have, the smarter you are. If you have an advanced degree, you have unequivocal evidence that you’re smart. If you’re a college professor, you can wear your job like a badge of smartness. If you’re an engineer, well same goes for these guys, right?

And if you’re not smart, what are you? Are you the opposite of smart? Yikes. But that’s how kids in school feel when they don’t demonstrate academic intelligence. I want to scream every time one of my children say, “I’m dumb” or “I’m just stupid” when they don’t know something—often knowledge that they’ve not had the opportunity to learn yet, or just something unnecessary to their lives so they let it go from their memory bank. (Which is actually smarter? A brain that purges irrelevant information or one that recalls useless details at will?)

There are so many ways that people can be intelligent and frankly, other types of intelligence are much more likely to lead to a satisfying and meaningful life than being academically gifted. I don’t want to stereotype engineers, and I definitely know this doesn’t apply to all of them, but they have a reputation of not being particularly savvy when it comes to social skills. And those professors are famous for not having real world skills. Sorry, professors.

So what about those clever people with sharp wit that make us laugh but flunked out of school. Are they smart? I guess they could be considered “street smart” but that definitely doesn’t carry the same value in our culture.

What about the fast food worker who makes stunning art in her spare time? Is this a form of smartness or do we reserve that word for the educated elite, and call this woman creative? Because creative and smart are not the same thing, right?

How about the stay-at-home mom who juggles the care of two small children, cleaning, meal planning and shopping, bookkeeping for the house, and still manages to organize weekly social gatherings with her friends. That takes some serious energy, organization, and determination. Does it take smarts? Do we value her contribution to society the same way we value a college professor?    

What about the person who never goes to college but instead busks in busy city centers with his guitar and his voice, moving from place to place, discovering that he prefers the simple things in life and forgoing the social norms for this vagabond lifestyle? What do we think of this guy? Do we throw a few bucks in his guitar case because we think he’s smart?

But we all seem to want our kids to be smart. Really?! Why? It’s a values thing. We elevate smart people and pay them more if they make it through education. But being smart has its pitfalls. More on this in a few days…